Mind plays the role of Blackmailer when fears take control of mind!
A kind of emotional blackmail as being subtle and insidious can do a lot of harm. It may appear in any form such as withholding of affection, disappointment, anxiety, insecurity etc.
Most of the time, mind plays a role of Enemy! But we can make it a friend!
Fear, the greatest enemy of human, slows the progress of a person, and it disturbs peace and harmony in life. In fact, fear sucks the vitality and energy of a person, which may become a cause for weakness and even for death.
The Devil is Fear. Ignorance is mother of fear. To get free from the clutch of this devil, we must have true knowledge by removing the ignorance. It is that simple.
Fear resides in out thoughts.
The seeds of fear lie dormant in childhood in the subconscious mind and sprout forth when similar situation arises.
Fear stops us from doing great things
Each of us can eradicate fear and gain calmness, happiness, peace of mind through different means such as studying good reads, meditation, exercise, yoga, playing games, listening music and good company etc.
Various types fear are at constant work in our mind:
- Fear of Change. If there is change then also fear works. If change is uncertain, the also fear works.
- Fear of pain.
- Fear of taking responsibilities.
- Fear of loss, bereavement, abandonment.
- Fear of aging, illness and death.
- Fear of loneliness.
- Fear of failure, rejection and humiliation.
- Fear of other’s opinion.
- Fear of public speaking.
- Fear of uncertainty: In business, or in job or in the field of art etc. etc.
Attachment is long standing associate of fear.
Wherever there is attachment, there is fear. Fear and attachment co-exist. Attachment makes us fearful. For example, the fear of abandonment arises from attachment: For some people a fear is such that they are not loved by their life partners and one day he/she may leave her/him. For them there is always fear of abandonment.
A person is generally attached to his/her family. So there is fear of losing partner, fear of loosing children. Normally a person is deeply attached to family members, property, name and fame. Some time fear arises in mind what will happen if I loose all these? But there is no fear when there is no attachment.
Fear is the false perception of reality and False perceptions are created in Mind.
Wrong perception are the cause of all sufferings. We must throw away all perceptions that pulls us from doing great works. Right understanding gives us right directions to live life with bliss. It is not the world that troubles us, but it is our own mind. Right understanding will remove fear from our mind.
Right understanding is essential.
In this world of duality, good and evil, right and wrong, truth and falsehood are so intermixed that a clear understanding is indispensable for a right choice at each and every step of life. Right understanding develops when the mind is purified. Mental purity and calmness go together. Ignorance blurs our vision and prevents us from seeing things in their true light. Right understanding teaches us to discriminate between the eternal and non-eternal, the real and unreal, the relative and the absolute.
So, what is right understanding?
Our real self is the conscious spirit shining within. It has been described in Upanishads as the Eye of the eye, the Ear of the ear, the Mind of the mind, the Life of the life. The body grows and decays, but the spirit within is changeless. The body undergoes hunger and thirst, heat and cold, but the spirit within is beyond all these changes. The mind has pain and pleasure, virtue and vice, knowledge and ignorance, but the real Self is beyond all these conditions. This non dual spirit is ever pure, ever free, and very essence of this Universe. That is our real Self and that is the reality. This self-shining spirit is essentially one with the Supreme Being. The source of all joy, of all wisdom, of all freedom is right inside our heart. There is one and only one place where we meet God-it is in the depth of the heart.
Think wisely that everything is favorable to you, because you are now connected with ONE, the Non-dual Self. Feel that you are receiving blessings of all sages and saints of this world and beyond. The Universe is full of spiritual vibrations. The grace of the Supreme is always ready to descend upon us. We need to open our heart to receive Universal blessings of Almighty.
Who am I in reality?
A sloka from The Bhagavad Gita: [B.G II:20, 22-24]
This Self is never born, nor does it die. It is not that having been it again ceases to be. Even as a man casts out worn-out clothes, and puts on others which are new, so the embodied self casts out worn-out bodies, and enters into others which are new.
This Self weapons cut not, fire burns not, water wets not, wind dries not. This Self cannot be cut, nor burnt, nor wetted, not dried; changeless, all-pervading, unmoving, unmoved, the Self is eternal.