Are you holding a grudge? About?

“Are You Holding a Grudge?”      “NO” 

I can honestly say, as I reflect on my life, that I hold no grudge against anyone. What I once deemed as ‘bad experiences’ were, in truth, valuable lessons that shaped my journey.

This presentation is dedicated to the celebration of JANMASHTAMI, LORD KRISHNA'S BIRTHDAY, and it will take you on a trip through the complex web of resentment with the help of thinkers like Kant and Nietzsche, as well as the ageless advice of the Bhagavad Gita. The pragmatist insights of William James and the everlasting truths of Lord Krishna serve as springboards for this investigation into the heart of forgiveness. 

Introduction: An Explanation of the Nature and Roots of Grudges:

A long-standing bitterness that develops in response to perceived transgressions is known as a grudge. It roots itself in interpersonal connections after being sown by betrayals of trust or failures to live up to expectations. Whether they are founded on actual or imagined wrongs, grudges are frequently handed down from one generation to the next.

The Effects That Keeping a Grudge Can Have on a Person’s Mental Health:

Keeping a grudge has a negative impact on one’s mental health and well-being. It is a breeding ground for animosity, resentment, and emotional misery, all of which contribute to elevated stress levels and the possibility of mental health problems. 

The Imperative to Forgive, According to Kantian Deontology:

The deontological ethics proposed by Kant places an emphasis on obligation and ethical standards. When seen from this angle, the act of forgiving an offense might be interpreted as a moral requirement. Keeping resentment in one’s heart is in direct opposition to the categorical imperative, which states that one must treat other people with respect and decency at all times. According to Kant, forgiving is an act that transcends one’s own personal grievances and serves to sustain human dignity.

The Utilitarian Approach to Striking a Balance Between Feelings and Consequences:

The philosophy of utilitarianism evaluates deeds according to the extent to which they contribute to achieving the goals of maximizing happiness and reducing suffering. It is important to strike a balance between the emotional well-being of the forgiver and the pursuit of greater general pleasure and harmony while practicing forgiveness. 

The Development of Forgiveness as a Virtue in the Context of Virtue Ethics:

 Recognizing forgiveness not as a sign of weakness but rather of fortitude is essential to the cultivation of this virtue. Improving one’s ability for empathy, compassion, and magnanimity is a necessary step in this process. According to this point of view, being able to let go of resentment and forgive a wrongdoing is a sign of moral maturity and reflects an individual’s ability for grace and compassion.

Grudges Change Our Perception and Interpretation.

Grudges greatly affect our perception and interpretation of events. They distort our perception, emphasizing negatives and downplaying positives. This changed view might misrepresent prior acts and intentions, sustaining animosity.

Openness, empathy, and perspective-taking are epistemic virtues.

Managing grudges requires epistemic qualities. Open-mindedness balances many perspectives, providing a more complex understanding. Empathy helps understand another’ intentions and experiences. Epistemic virtue, perspective-taking, helps resolve grudges by revealing the complexity of human interaction and fostering compassion.

The Role of Time in Grudge Resolution:

Time is key to grudge settlement. As time passes, feelings change and fade. This natural process might reduce resentment. Distance from the initial hurt might let forgivers see things objectively. Knowing grudges are temporary emphasizes their potential for healing and progress.

Nietzschean Eternal Recurrence: Breaking the Grudge Cycle.

Nietzsche’s everlasting repetition makes grudge-holding a major issue. It asks if people would tolerate the same experiences, even a grudge, forever. This thought experiment challenges the value of resentment. It implies that releasing grudges might help people overcome negative patterns and adopt a more positive attitude on life.

The Pragmatism of Letting Go:

William James and Forgiveness.

William James’ pragmatism promotes realism in thoughts and deeds. James suggests exploring the real advantages of forgiveness for grudges. He stresses that letting go of a grudge improves relationships, mental health, and societal harmony. James advises weighing the benefits of forgiveness against the costs of bitterness.

Signifying Grudge Resolution Change with Peircean Semiotics.

Grudge resolution is viewed differently through Charles Peirce’s semiotics. Semiotics examines signals and interpretations. Letting go of a grudge can symbolize reconciliation, understanding, and a better future.


Possible Liberation: Ontological Forgiveness Perspectives.

Considering forgiveness from an ontological perspective illuminates the possibility of grudge freedom. Ontology studies being and existence. Forgiveness transforms one’s identity in this scenario. It may release people from resentment, giving them a new sense of self and a free life.

Lord Krishna conveys significant guidance.

Lord Krishna conveys significant guidance on equanimity, especially in the context of forgiving others, in the 12th chapter of the Bhagavad Gita. True dedication, he says, comes from one’s character and not from external observances. Those who can remain equanimous during happy and sad times alike, as well as through the process of forgiving a wrongdoer, are praised by Lord Krishna. This calmness results from knowing the world is temporary and having unshakeable confidence in the Divine. One achieves inner peace by moving beyond opposites and openly welcoming new experiences, including the mending of old grudges. The teachings of Lord Krishna stress the need of maintaining harmony within and unwavering dedication to one’s spiritual path, especially while one works to lessen resentment.

The following works are recommended for the present subject matter: 

The book titled “Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness” authored by Fred Luskin.

Immanuel Kant’s philosophical book titled “Groundwork for the Metaphysics of Morals”.

The work titled “Utilitarianism” authored by John Stuart Mill.

The literary work titled “Nicomachean Ethics” authored by the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle.

The literary work under consideration is “Thus Spoke Zarathustra” authored by Friedrich Nietzsche.

The subject of inquiry in this discussion is the philosophical concept of pragmatism as expounded by the renowned American philosopher, William James.

Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel’s seminal work, “The Phenomenology of Spirit.”

The Bhagavad Gita is a timeless philosophical and spiritual text that offers profound insights into various aspects of life, ethics, and spirituality. It provides valuable guidance on how to lead a meaningful and balanced life.

Guru Purnima: Honouring the Essence of Guru Tatwa

Happy Guru Purnima!

“GURU TATWA”: The essence of Universal Wisdom.

Dear Friends and Readers,

It is with great joy and reverence, I would like to focus here today to explore the profound concept of the Guru Tatwa, an infinite intelligence that transcends any particular human form. “GURU TATWA” is not limited to any Guru in the form of Human Being.

On this auspicious day, let us express our gratitude, seek blessings, and rededicate ourselves to the path of self-discovery and enlightenment under the guidance of the Guru Tatwa.


Guru Purnima, a sacred day celebrated by spiritual seekers and devotees around the world, holds profound significance. Beyond the veneration of a specific guru, it symbolizes the recognition and reverence for the Guru Tatwa—the universal principle of knowledge and wisdom. 

Ancient Teachings: Significance of Guru Tatwa in Hindu Philosophy: 

 Guru Tatwa refers to the universal principle or essence of the Guru. It encompasses the fundamental qualities and attributes associated with a guru, which are considered sacred and vital for spiritual growth and realization. Guru Tatwa represents the role of the guru in dispelling ignorance and leading seekers towards enlightenment. The Guru Tatwa plays the role of a spiritual guide and mentor. Gurus offer clarity, direction, and inspiration, helping the disciple transcend limitations and realize their spiritual potential.

Guru as the Manifestation of “Brahman”:

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In Hindu philosophy, Brahman is considered the supreme reality, the ultimate source of all existence, consciousness, and knowledge. The Guru is seen as a manifestation or embodiment of this divine principle, serving as a guide and transmitter of wisdom to seekers on their spiritual journey. Brahman, being formless and beyond comprehension, assumes different forms to interact with the world and guide seekers. The Guru can appear as a human being, an avatar, a sage, nature, or even an animal, depending on the divine play and the needs of the aspirant. 

Spiritual Growth: Role of Guru: –

The Guru possesses deep spiritual realization and insights into the nature of existence. Through their own direct experience and connection with the divine, they are able to transmit knowledge and guidance to their disciples. This transmission occurs on a subtle level, beyond mere intellectual exchange, as the Guru’s presence and teachings facilitate spiritual growth in the seeker.

Honouring Guru:

The relationship between the Guru and disciple is profound and sacred. The disciple approaches the Guru with humility, surrender, and a sincere desire for spiritual evolution. The Guru, in turn, imparts knowledge, offers guidance, and helps remove the veils of ignorance that obstruct the seeker’s path. 

Parents: the first GURUs.

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The first GURUs in our lives are our parents and the immediate environment in which we are nurtured. This holds true for all living beings, but for human beings, it carries a special significance due to our heightened consciousness and potential for spiritual growth. From the moment of our birth, they become the primary channels through which we experience the world. As human beings, we possess a unique position in this cosmic play, for we are highly evolved manifestations of Brahman.

Learning from Nature: The Second Guru:

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The natural world is a profound teacher, offering valuable lessons and insights. The environment exposes individuals to the beauty and intricacy of nature, fostering a sense of awe, wonder, and interconnectedness. Observing the cycles of seasons, the diversity of flora and fauna, and the balance of ecosystems can instill a deep appreciation for the wisdom and harmony of nature.

Cultural and Social Interactions: The Third Guru:

The social environment, including interactions with family, friends, community, and society at large, contributes to one’s growth and development. Cultural norms, values, and customs are passed down through interactions within the community, exposing individuals to different perspectives and ways of life. These interactions provide opportunities to learn from diverse experiences and broaden one’s understanding of the world.

Educational Institutions: Prime period with Gurus:

Formal educational institutions, such as schools, colleges, and universities, serve as influential aspects of the environment. They provide structured learning environments, access to knowledge, and opportunities for intellectual growth. Teachers and mentors within educational institutions impart academic knowledge, critical thinking skills, and guidance in various disciplines.

Other forms of Gurus: 

1) Media and Technology:

In the modern era, media and technology shape the environment in significant ways. The internet, books, television, films, and other media platforms offer a wealth of information and perspectives. While navigating these platforms requires discernment, they can provide access to diverse sources of knowledge, insights, and ideas, serving as an educational resource.

2) Personal Experiences and Life Challenges:

Life experiences, including personal successes and failures, challenges, and hardships, offer profound opportunities for growth and learning. These experiences serve as powerful GURUs, providing lessons in resilience, adaptability, compassion, and self-discovery. Through personal experiences, individuals gain practical wisdom and insights that shape their character and spiritual evolution.


In the concept of Guru as “Brahman,” we understand that the Guru is the embodiment of the supreme reality and the ultimate source of all knowledge. Through various forms and the grace of the Guru, seekers are guided towards self-realization and spiritual awakening. We have embraced the understanding that this wisdom is accessible to all beings in myriad ways. May we always cherish the divine presence in our lives, appreciating the interconnectedness of all beings and the role they play as GURUs on our journey of self-realization.”

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